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Creative discipline

Creative discipline

Few parents enjoy their God-given responsibility of disciplining their children, and even fewer children enjoy being on the receiving end. The Bible tells us to expect discipline to be uncomfortable, but also promises positive results. This section will provide you with innovative suggestions to use when correcting your children, to help them learn to practice generosity.

For a child who does not share

Biblical basis

Proverbs 11:24 “One man gives freely, yet gains even more; another withholds unduly, but comes to poverty.”

Suggested disciplinary action

If a child is unwilling to share, create poverty for them – in food, drink, toys, clothing or possessions. That is, take away from them what they won’t share.

Affirmation

Remind your child of Proverbs 11:25: “A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed,” and Proverbs 28:25: “A greedy man stirs up dissension, but he who trusts in the Lord will prosper.” Pray together, asking God to help your child trust Him to provide for them and that they would be willing to share what they have.

For a child who has much, but does not share

Biblical basis

Ecclesiastes 5:10-11 “Whoever loves money never has enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with his income. This too is meaningless. As goods increase so do those who consume them. And what benefit are they to the owner except to feast his eyes on them?”

Suggested disciplinary action

Bless your child by removing their “riches.” Remove toys that are causing discontentment or strife in your home. For example, a child may own ten, twenty or even more stuffed animals and still refuse to share even one. In this case, you could take away the privilege of playing with any stuffed animals or have the child choose just one to play with each day.

Affirmation

Encourage your child to consider what it means to have plenty and what it means to be “in want.” Refer to Philippians 4:11: “…I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances” and Philippians 4:12: “…I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.” Pray with your child, asking God to teach him/her the secret of being content and to give him/her a generous heart.